Acceptance can be difficult, but it’s easier than fighting against a situation you can’t change. By accepting the things you can’t change, your mind has the freedom to focus on the things you can.
How to accept the things you can't change
Start by accepting who you are
If you value yourself, you’re more likely to have positive relationships with other people and find it easier to cope during difficult times in your life. Don’t compare yourself with other people. Stop focusing on your mistakes and begin to acknowledge the things you’re good at. Accept your limits and aim for realistic goals.
Learn to accept others
You can’t control or change how other people act or behave. Instead, focus on the things you can control such as the way you choose to react to their behaviour. Be compassionate to others and let go of any anger and resentments. Learn to forgive others so that you can move on.
Learn to accept situations
There are situations in life we simply can’t change, such as losing a loved one, being made redundant, growing older or having a serious illness. Talking about what you’re going through can help you come to terms with it. Share your feelings with a trusted friend or a counsellor.
Learn to accept the here and now
Stop thinking about what may happen in the future or dwelling on what did or didn’t happen in the past. Learn to focus on what’s happening today and start to appreciate the good things in your life.