What’s the first thing you do when you wake up?
I usually have a little stretch, check to see how many people have liked my picture of some wisteria that I posted on Instagram, get up and make a cup of tea – all totally normal things to do, but all things we take for granted.
Generally I would say that I’m a very optimistic, motivated kind of person. You have to be to run your own business I think – you need to be on the ball and keep yourself going no matter what. But there have also been periods in my life when I’ve not felt so great.
About three years ago I went through a particularly difficult time. I’d had a relationship break down, work was very busy and I had just moved house, to a new town. I started experiencing horrible anxiety, which I’d never had before. I’ve had short periods of being depressed, but the anxiety was new and I did NOT like it. For several months even doing the most basic of things felt really scary.
I would wake up every morning really early – at about 5am – and immediately feel terrified. I didn’t really know what of, but I could feel the adrenaline pumping and I kept saying ‘I don’t know what to do, how will I cope?’ over and over in my head.
I remember one morning lying in bed, crying, thinking I should go downstairs to make a cup of tea. I managed to get to the kitchen and switch on the kettle, but I couldn’t stop crying and just couldn’t see how I would be able to make the cup of tea without something terrible happening. Because something terrible WAS going to happen, I was sure. Looking back I can’t even quite describe it – it seems such a simple thing not to be able to do – and yet I just couldn’t.
The thing about depression and anxiety is that the road to recovery takes effort, and perseverance, and often a lot of time. One of the things I found most helpful was talking to a therapist. They didn’t have a miracle cure, but they helped me to understand that that was okay – just because I couldn’t feel better overnight didn’t mean that I would never feel better. They gave me practical techniques to help manage feelings in the moment, which I found really useful.
For me, it’s also about gratitude, and in a way I’m grateful to have experienced these difficult periods, as it makes me appreciate life even more. Making a cup of tea is a small thing, but it is a reflection of my good emotional wellbeing, and I will never take it for granted again.
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