Supporting children with OCD
If your child has OCD, here are some coping strategies that may help make things a little more manageable for them.
Traffic light system
Have a ‘traffic light system’ in place. This includes your child using three pictures to share how they are feeling without necessarily having to speak. Each picture will represent an emotion which the child can either hand to you, point to, place on their bedroom door, or in some cases share with you via social media.
A worry jar enables your child to visually see that once the worry has been addressed, it doesn’t need to be a worry any longer. Write the worry down and then put it in the jar.
A brave jar allows your child to focus on a positive thing that they have achieved that day. Write down the achievement and pop it in the jar. This will help promote increased self-esteem and confidence.
Keeping a diary
Keeping a diary of what your child was doing when they started to feel anxious can help identify what triggers these feelings. This can also help your child learn how to manage these feelings and situations in the future.
Give your child a couple of ice cubes (or plastic ice cubes) to hold in their hands. This can help them focus on the sensations of coldness, rather than any distressing thoughts or feelings.
Grounding techniques are coping strategies which help you feel reconnected with reality. The following can help young people feel back in control of their emotions.
- Tell yourself you’re safe, and that these feelings will pass.
- Acknowledge five things that you can see.
- Acknowledge four things you can touch.
- Acknowledge three things you can hear.
- Acknowledge two things you can smell.
If you don’t have the right things around you to complete these steps, then ask questions such as: where in the world is cold?
Further support for adults and children
These are some additional strategies for helping you or a loved one manage.
Communication is key at this unusual and difficult time. You may find having regular ‘family meetings’ helpful. This will give you all time to discuss expectations, how you will support one another and what working together as a family unit will look like given the current situation.
Despite restrictions, people may need time to themselves. Try to create an area where family members can have quiet time. If space doesn’t allow, discuss how each person wants to be supported in having quiet time.
Individual support plan
Writing up an ‘individual support plan’ may help you and others around you understand how you would like to be supported during this time. Some questions to think about include:
- How can I help myself when I’m feeling worried or distressed?
- What positive distractions can help me at this time?
- How can I let my family know that I’m struggling? What signs may I show?
- How do I want to be supported? What things will I find helpful and what things will I not find helpful?
Communicating and sharing your thoughts with someone you trust will help. It may be that they have encountered a similar problem and can talk you through how they managed this.