Life is so full-on that it feels like we’re ‘always on’ too – never having a minute or more to pause for breath and enjoy…doing nothing at all.
It’s got to the point where many of us don’t quite know how to relax. And, if we do find ourselves with some rare time on our hands, we don’t know what to do with it – we fill it up in a mild panic.
Did you know….
- In the UK, we check our mobile phones every 12 minutes
- We use our phones for a total of two hours and 28 minutes per day
- 40 per cent of people admit to checking work emails after hours at least five times a day
Switching off the niksen way
Switching off should be high on our priorities, and not just something we do when we turn in for the night and go to sleep. And the Netherlands may have the answer. Have you heard of the concept of niksen? It basically means to be idle – and while it may sound like just another new wellness trend, it’s something we could all be taking inspiration from.
Niksen is all about dedicating focused time to just sitting still with our own thoughts – to simply ‘being’. While Denmark’s hygge was all about cosiness, and Sweden’s lagom preached moderation, the Netherlands’ niksen takes the idea of ‘doing nothing’ as a self-care practice that can help us truly unwind.
The main principle of niksen is to enjoy things that have no purpose as such, like sitting in a chair and looking out the window. It could be sitting on your sofa and looking around at your living room, or just listening to music. The name of the game is to just let yourself ‘be’, not ‘do’.
Niksen challenges us to stop filling our lives up with ‘stuff’ and to get rid of the stigma that purposefully doing nothing is a sign of laziness and something to be viewed negatively. This can be hard because being busy has become the norm and almost seen as something to be proud of. Having a plan to do nothing almost feels shameful to share with anyone. And that in itself seems a shame – to neglect our need or forgotten desire to just…chill.
How a hectic schedule can impact our health
But actually, it’s more than that, a packed calendar and schedule can lead to burnout, stress and anxiety. In fact, burnout is now a recognised occupational phenomenon by the World Health Organization, so we should definitely be looking into strategies to help us prevent it.
All this combined with living in an age of digital dependency has seen wellness rise higher on the agenda, with more and more of us turning to the benefits of yoga, meditation and mindfulness.
The benefits of niksen
The difference with niksen is that you don’t need to focus on the present moment; you just let your thoughts meander wherever they want. It's about spending time in a way that isn't directed towards being productive or achieving anything in particular.
It’s an encouraging thought in today’s ever-busy and switched-on world and could be an opportunity to really relax and help restore our mental wellbeing. Niksen is sometimes referred to as ‘the art of living’ and one of the benefits is that it gives you time to work out what sort of relaxation works for you. You can think of it as way of giving your brain ‘time off’ to rest while you’re awake.
Practising ‘down time’ could help us prompt our relaxation response – which is the opposite of our flight or fight stress response. When we are stressed, our bodies release a surge of hormones and we get all sorts of symptoms such as a racing or pounding heart, tense muscles and feeling alert. This is an automatic response our bodies developed to help protect us from danger. The problem is, the response gets triggered in situations that aren’t truly life-threatening. Though no one would deny they can be stressful and annoying – deadlines, queues, and traffic jams are just some of them.
Learning ways that we can bring ourselves back to relaxation is an important way to restore some balance. We can help to bring about the relaxation response by following some of the principles of niksen: taking a break, slowing down, breathing calmly and being comfortable in our bodies and surroundings. And importantly, taking the pressure off ourselves to always be ‘switched on’, productive and achieving all the time.
The art of relaxation
Practising something as simple as ‘doing nothing’ though, isn’t as easy as it sounds – especially when we’re not used to it. You may need to challenge yourself to stick with it beyond the first few minutes. So here are some ways you can give it a go.
- Sit on the train on the way to work and just daydream out the window.
- Put some music on and put your feet up.
- Sit and do something that you know how to do automatically, such as knitting.
- Go for a walk with no destination in mind.
- Plan to have no plan one evening during the week or one day at the weekend.
Of course, it’s not advisable to do nothing for huge amounts of time – it’s about balance – giving yourself space to ‘be’ and having a fulfilling and satisfying active lifestyle. But if you know you’re someone who doesn’t find it easy to relax, practising niksen for a few minutes a day could be a step towards resetting that balance. Dare to daydream.