Stay in the present moment
If you’re having a difficult day, try not to think too far ahead as this can feel overwhelming. Instead, try to concentrate on the next step – such as getting dressed or making a nice coffee mid-morning. Take things one small step at a time.
You might find it helps to allocate different spaces in your home to different purposes. The change of scenery for different activities can help divide and structure time as well as reduce feelings of being trapped inside.
Ben, 28, used his experience of the first lockdown in March to build more structure into his everyday routine. He also found waking up early and starting his day doing exercise helped him to feel positive throughout the day.
Make a plan
Now that so many of us have been at home for months, the days can blur into one long stretch of time that feels difficult to fill. This can be especially hard over the weekends or if you’re not working. Breaking up your day can help make everything seem a little more manageable.
Some people find it helps to make a plan for the next few hours and write it down. So, if you need to, try taking things hour by hour, moment by moment. You might find it helps you remember that you might not feel like this for the whole day and that things will change. And sometimes a day can end better than it started.
Carolyn is 61 and has lived alone for nearly 10 years. She says that the key things that have helped her during lockdown are:
- structuring each day
- having a good breakfast
- keeping fit
Set achievable goals
It’s good to keep to a routine and set yourself some goals. These don’t need to be huge goals like writing a novel or learning another language, but if you’d like to do those things, then go for it!
Lots of us may be finding it hard to concentrate at the moment, so set small achievable targets for yourself. This could include cooking a nice meal from scratch, clearing out your wardrobe or watching that film you’ve been meaning to see. This will give you something to do and promote a sense of satisfaction or enjoyment.
During the March lockdown, Sarah, who is 80, made the most of her time indoors by spreading out her cleaning jobs around the house. She also tackled clearing out one kitchen cupboard per day.
This could be a good time to connect with yourself on a deeper level. You may want to try writing your thoughts down as a way to notice how you’re feeling and what makes you feel happy. Or you could try expressing yourself through art.
Doing something creative can be a good way to take your mind off things, help you to relax and spend time doing something enjoyable. Give yourself permission to resurrect old hobbies or explore any new hobbies you’d like to take up.
Connect as much as you can
Make the most of video calls with family and friends. Try reframing social distancing as physical distancing – although you can’t be together in person, you can still socialise in other virtual ways.
When outdoors, make the most of opportunities for contact, such as saying hello to the postman or takeaway delivery person (from a distance). Or chat to a neighbour over the garden fence, balcony or doorway.
If you’re single, Ben acknowledges that this can be particularly difficult at the moment. He says: “A single man that I am, it’s tricky not being able to meet people or develop relationships. This is the hardest element for me. But this downtime allows me to improve certain elements of myself ready for when social distancing drops.”
Exercise daily and get outside
You’re allowed to leave your house to take daily exercise. Make use of this so that you get some fresh air and a change of environment. And, if the decrease in winter daylight is affecting your mood, try to get outside during daylight when you can. It’s also a chance to see other people out walking their dog or going for a run. It may help to physically see other people going about their day just as you are.
Carolyn agrees, saying that getting outside for daily exercise helps her to maintain positive energy. She cycles almost every day and goes for a walk a few times a week and finds this is helpful.
There’s a lot beyond our control at the moment and that can be difficult to accept. But if you can let go of what you can’t control and practise acceptance and self-compassion, it may help to free up energy and space in your mind.
It may also help to remember how resilient you’ve been in the past and that you can get through this too. Carolyn says: “I have dealt with various things during my life, which has found me favouring living alone for near enough the last 10 years. I prefer to be in control of all aspects of my life. I feel that this is a very positive way to live.”
Reach out for help
Whatever your situation, what’s happening in the world right now is a lot to process. You might find some days easier than others. If you’re feeling anxious, stressed or low, try and speak to someone you trust about how you’re feeling. If this isn’t possible or you’d rather to speak to somebody you don’t know, there are some places of support that can help you.