Dealing with grief
We can support you if you’re dealing with grief after losing someone close to you. You don’t even have to be a Bupa customer.
Dealing with bereavement
Everyone experiences the death of a loved one at some point. That’s normal, because death is part of life. But the grief you experience when dealing with loss through bereavement can be devastating and can affect your mental health.
You may experience the following; feeling overwhelmed, in shock, denial, anger, confusion, yearning, fear and regret. You may become fearful of losing others you love. There’s no right or wrong way to grieve, and there’s no timeline for grieving, each individual will grieve in their own unique way, but there are lots of ways to find the support you need. It’s also very important to make time to try and be a little kinder to yourself.
This page may also be for you if you’re supporting a friend who is grieving, so you can help look after their mental health.
Dealing with grief? Support strategies to help you
Grief is so painful and raw that it can be difficult to share just how low you feel. You may believe that no one else could possibly understand. If you need help dealing with grief, our video could help.
00:04 Feeling grief about losing someone we love is a natural part of life, and
00:09 it happens to all of us at some point.
00:13 The death of a loved one is recognized as the most stressful thing people
00:16 ever face in life, but there are many types of loss which can cause grief.
00:21 Such as the loss of a job, the loss of a relationship after a separation.
00:27 Or the loss of health after a disabling injury or illness, reactions to grief
00:32 can include feelings of shock and disbelief, confusion, anger, guilt,
00:38 sadness, difficulty sleeping and the loss of appetite.
00:43 It's true that there is no right or wrong way to grieve.
00:46 However, there are a number of self-care steps that can help you work
00:50 through the grief. Such as making time to talk to other people and
00:54 trying not to keep things bottled up.
00:56 Remembering and sharing happy memories of your loved one.
00:59 Eating properly and getting enough rest;
01:02 even if you can't sleep. If you're physically able to getting up and out
01:06 of your home for some exercise can help.
01:10 Even if it is just doing some gardening or going for a walk.
01:14 And make sure you allow yourself to grieve.
01:17 It's okay to be upset and there's no time limits on it.
01:21 After all the best prescription for grief is to grieve.
01:25 It's important to note that some people find that their reactions
01:28 to grief don't gradually get better and may even be getting worse.
01:33 This is called complicated or prolonged grief and happens in
01:37 around one in every 10 bereavements.
01:41 If you feel like you've become stuck and you can't move on,
01:44 your doctor may suggest a talking therapy like counselling or
01:48 cognitive behavioural therapy.
01:50 Remember, you don't need to feel guilty or embarrassed about asking for specific
01:55 help from friends, family, colleagues, or your GP. To find out more about how Bupa
02:01 and other organizations can support you.
02:03 Visit our website.
02:06 Whatever's on your mind.
02:08 We can help.
Our tips for dealing with grief
Understanding grief and bereavement
This article explores the impact of grief. Also, what to do if your grief becomes complex or it’s difficult to move on as you need to.
Find Bupa-recognised mental health professionals near you
Our Finder tool lets you browse the directory of Bupa-recognised consultants, psychologists, therapists, counsellors and other professionals.
You don’t need to be a Bupa health insurance customer to see them, just make your own appointment and pay independently.
Workplace Wellbeing Hub
We’re here to help you support your team's wellbeing.
- Discover how to implement a workplace wellbeing strategy
- Get practical guidance on how to support your team's wellbeing.
- Use our range of guides to help support your team
- Read our informative blog posts covering a range of topics
Workplace mental health
If you’re a manager, we can help you look after your team.
- Learn how to set up a Wellness Action Plan
- Improve your organisation's approach to mental health
- Discover how to play an important role in supporting your team
- Find out how to feel confident talking about mental health
#OpenUp
We want to open up the conversation in your business.
- Break the stigma attached to mental health in the workplace
- Find out how we are encouraging businesses to open up
- Get advice on talking about mental wellbeing with your team
- Listen to our podcasts covering mental health in the workplace
If you’re in a crisis or just need some help, don’t hesitate. Here are some really helpful organisations that you can turn to for support.
Samaritans
When life is difficult, Samaritans are here – day or night, 365 days a year. Whoever you are and whatever you’re facing, they won’t judge you or tell you what to do. They’re there to listen so you don’t have to face it alone.
Call free day or night on
116 123 (UK and ROI)
Mind
Mind is a charity dedicated to mental health. They exist to make sure no one has to face a mental health problem alone. They’ll listen to you and offer support and advice.
0300 123 3393
Lines open 9am to 6pm, Monday to Friday, except for bank holidays
Young Minds
YoungMinds is the UK’s leading charity for children’s and young people's mental health. You can text Crisis Messenger for free 24/7 and get support from trained volunteers who are supervised by experienced clinicians. Texts are free from most major mobile networks.
For urgent help, text YM to 85258
Mental Health Foundation
This charity helps people understand, protect and sustain their mental health. The ‘Your mental health’ section has lots of useful content, including podcasts about mindfulness and overcoming anxiety.
Rethink Mental Illness
Rethink offers crisis and recovery services, advocacy, online resources, support groups and much more. Each year, they help tens of thousands of people manage their mental wellbeing.
0300 5000 927
Lines open 10am to 2pm Monday to Friday
Mental health support as part of Bupa health insurance
I’m already a Bupa health insurance customer
If mental health is included in your Bupa health insurance, we may be able to refer you to a consultant or therapist, and you may not even have to see your GP first†. Or we can put you through to one of our mental health nurses.
03456 090 111^
^Calls may be recorded and to maintain the quality of our service we may monitor some of our calls, always respecting the confidentiality of the call.
I’m not a Bupa customer, but I’d like to find out more about health insurance
If you’re looking for mental health support as part of a broader health insurance policy, we can look after you, your family, or your business.
† Any onward referrals for consultations, tests or treatment are subject to the benefits and exclusions of your cover. Please check your guide and certificate for further details or contact us to check your eligibility.
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