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As a society, we place a lot of significance around the concept of being ‘normal’, yet its meaning is difficult to define and unique to everyone.

Throughout 2020, some of us have questioned our mental health, emotions, doubts and concerns and have often wondered if how we're feeling is normal. But what is normal?

Normal can mean something different to everyone. We looked at the top mental health questions being searched online that included 'is it normal', before and after the lockdown. Here, we explore some of the points raised in the data and provide some reassurance that you're not alone if you feel this way too.

Is it normal to question your sexuality?

Sexuality and sexual orientations are part of a spectrum, and it’s very common for people to question their sexuality. Sexual orientation is all about attraction, and whether you’re gay, straight, bisexual or asexual, it’s entirely normal to question how you feel towards others.

The COVID-19 pandemic has prompted many of us to think and reflect on how we feel. This is shown in the increased amount of searches about sexuality.

If your sexuality has affected your experiences or relationships in a negative way, this can cause a negative impact on your mental health. It's important to share your experiences with someone trusted, whether it's a friend, family member or a mental health professional.

Is it normal to cry everyday?

When we're going through a difficult time, it's natural for our emotions to overwhelm us.

If you find that you're crying frequently, or have felt overwhelmed for a long time, it can indicate an underlying mental condition like depression or an anxiety disorder.

With the right treatment and support, most to many people can and will recover. Even if you live with a long-term recurring mental health condition, you could still be covered with Bupa's mental health insurance.

If you're worried that you might have depression or anxiety, call us on
0808 115 5285^

Is it normal to fall out of love?

Not feeling the same way about a person you previously loved can be quite scary. You may feel as though you no longer enjoy spending time with them, but you still care about them.

People fall out of love for many different reasons. It could be a change in circumstances, being together every day, or spending more time apart may have added extra strain on a relationship. It’s entirely natural to outgrow each other or drift apart.

It’s not something you have to face alone. You can check out our mental health hub for information on how mental health affects relationships, and how relationships affect mental health

Is it normal not to dream?

You may have spoken to friends who had especially vivid dreams during lockdown periods. If you're worried that you haven't had any dreams at all, it's worth knowing that you can have healthy REM (rapid eye movement) sleep without dreams, or dream during the night but forget the dream as soon as you wake up.

If you can’t remember having a dream, but you're sleeping well, then there's probably nothing to worry about.

However, if you've been struggling to sleep for some time, it is advisable to speak to your GP as there are some physical and mental health conditions that can lead to sleep difficulties. You can find free help and advice about sleep on our Mental Health Hub, and if you have Bupa mental health cover, you can call us on 0808 256 1766^.

Is it normal to be jealous?

Jealousy is a human emotion and it is entirely natural to feel it.

Whether you’re jealous in your relationships, of your friends or people online, it’s okay to feel that way sometimes, but it can become unhealthy if it persists and affects your relationships.

If you’re jealous of someone that’s close to you, it’s good to talk to them about it, and try to understand why you’re feeling that way. Keeping this emotion to yourself can cause a lot of stress and anxiety.

If your jealousy is making you feel angry, there's evidence that cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) can help to break negative thought patterns.

Is it normal to talk to yourself?

Not only is talking to yourself common, it can be good for your mental health.

Talking to yourself slows down your thoughts and allows you to process them, giving you time to think before you act.

Talking in a positive way can also improve your self-esteem, so be kind to yourself.

However, if you feel that talking to yourself has a negative knock-on effect for your mental health, practising mindfulness can help to reduce your stress levels and prevent depression and anxiety.

Is it normal to cry?

If you're faced with a big life event, or something that puts you under lots of pressure, it can affect you both physically and mentally, and can even cause changes in your behaviour.

If you feel like you should or want to cry and you're not able to, it might be a sign of an underlying mental health condition, like depression. Talking about these feelings with a mental health professional or somebody close to you can help to get to the bottom of them and pave a path forward.

Find a mental health professional near you

Browse our comprehensive list of Bupa-recognised consultants, therapists, hospitals and healthcare services. You don’t need be a Bupa member to see them, just make your own appointment and pay independently.



Find support near you

If you're in a crisis or just need some help, don't hesitate. Here are some really helpful organisations that you can turn to for support.

  • Samaritans

  • Mind

  • YoungMinds

  • Mental Health Foundation

  • Rethink Mental Illness

Mental health support as part of Bupa health insurance

Direct Access telephone services are available as long as the symptoms are covered under the policy. If your cover excludes conditions you had before your policy started, we’ll ask you to provide evidence from your GP that your symptoms are not pre-existing for a period of up to two years from policy start date (or five years in the case of mental health). Always call us first to check your eligibility.

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